Tuesday, February 10, 2009

"god's will"

I am sick to death of hearing this. SICK TO DEATH OF IT.

When I had my chemical pregnancy, godbags liked to say "Oh, it's God's will, it happened for a reason," and it never failed to raise my ire. God killed my hopes and dreams, and for what? To teach me a lesson? What a vindictive asshole. I don't believe in any God whose plan basically involves taking a giant shit on my whole life.

Yesterday, Sid found out that Tricare will not cover our infertility treatments. Which I'd expected, but then what the guy who handled our case did next took the fucking CAKE. He leaned in, all confidential-like and said, "Maybe it's just God's will, and you should accept that you're not supposed to be parents."

Uh, what? Maybe you should just accept you need a giant whack with a CLUE-BY-FOUR, you sorry jackass.

I get so goddamned sick of hearing "Just accept it, you're not meant to be parents." Would you say that to someone who has just buried their only child? Would you say that to someone who has just delivered a stillborn baby? NO? Then why the fuck do you think it's okay to say to someone who is still coming to terms with the fact that THEY CANNOT HAVE CHILDREN WITHOUT INTERVENTIONS.

Seriously, lay off the "god's will" bs already. I don't believe for one second that there's a god, or that he's got a plan for any of us. You're just throwing it out there as a way to make your own self feel better, a way for you to convince yourself that bad shit will never happen to me, because I have God on my side.

You don't. You have naivete and ignorance on your side. And that's about it.


Queermo said...


starky said...

I see what you did there.

Something made me laugh today and it was totally inappropriate. You know those idiots who say "we'll have as many kids as God blesses us with." Well... what happens if they're barren?


wellroundedtype2 said...

Some people aren't meant to be health professionals, but that doesn't stop them.
My health insurance also doesn't cover fertility treatment.
It's kind of like saying to someone whose parents can't afford to send them to college that maybe it's god will that they don't get an education.
I hope that fertility treatments will get covered more equally someday. I actually did have health insurance that had fertility coverage a while back and it did help. (We got pregnant after we stopped the treatments -- I was 35 at the time).